Entitlement? Love is NOT An Obligation, Duty or Responsibility!

We all possess a saturated, supreme, sublime indifference that scares us to death! We don’t know what to do with it. We try to dress it up, call it something else, blame another or circumstances for the ‘natural and convenient’ unresponsiveness but it just doesn’t work.

We end up going round in circles trying to prove to ourselves and others-it’s simply not true-by going the extra mile, (doing something we truly are not interested in the least in doing and will end up resenting the fact we did it) filling the conversation with an abundant appearance of caring and concerned words, promising all sorts of things, we never intend to fulfill while we put on the best Oscar winning show acting like we are listening with such compassion.

My God! Paula, you make us sound like unloving, selfish beasts.

I’m not saying anything of the sort. What I am saying is that the most authentic part of us, which is so totally raw and real when activated and recognized, produces an emotion (proceeded and followed by adjacent supportive thoughts) which make us feel so uncomfortable that we react to it as IF it the opposite of love. We immediately set about to try to change these feelings by covering them up with more good deeds and/or at the very least, deny and suppress their natural course of movement. 

We certainly don’t want anyone to see just how much we don’t care and will go to great lengths to try to prove we do! It’s as if we are responsible and duty bound to prove that we do honestly (with all of heart, soul, mind and body) LOVE whatever it is that has provoked these feelings of contrasting drive. A word which might fit the bill in describing these seemingly unnatural, disconcerting emotions would be: obligation. 

 
Yes. We are conditioned to believe we are obligated to feel LOVE and receive LOVE. When we don’t have the slightest notion what a genuine demonstration of LOVE would be without our self-motivated, self-interested, self-absorbed intention attached to it. Everything we do and say revolves around us and our proposed substantiated needs and desires.

We expect something back from whatever action we take. This sense of entitlement invokes a state of expectation which produces a level of dependency and entrapment. And, as human beings, what does that do for us? Nothing but generate suppressed anger and fear because we feel helpless, controlled by something we don't understand or appreciate. Do you call that LOVE?